February 3, 2021
February 3, 2021
Valentine’s Day is coming up, which means LOTS of love in the air. If you want to set a little at-home Valentine’s Day activity, consider this idea. Spend one hour together with a glass of wine, some romantic tunes and a lit scented candle in the middle of the room. Grab a note book (not computer, or you’ll get distracted) and start writing your vows together, but obviously separate (if they’re supposed to be a surprise). It will kick start the writing process but you’ll be in the mood to say how you feel because we’re near the most romantic holiday of the year!
The real reason we bring this up is we’ve heard a lot of vows in our wedding planning journey. Some of our favorite vows are those that are written by the couple because they are personalized and really showcase the love of the couple. While all vows are special in their own way, we have started collecting some suggestions for things to consider while writing your vows, to make your “perfect verbal commitment” to one another.
There are so many ways to go about picking what content to say in your vows. We suggest talking through the general order and flow so the vows are cohesive but not the same. Below are a few suggestions of content but you’re welcome to add/remove subjects or even move around the content based on your personality.
Have you ever heard vows where one person reads for a few minutes and then their partner only reads for 30 seconds? While we don’t think the vows have to be the exact same length, we do think they should be somewhat comparable so both individuals feel the same amount of commitment and love within. We don’t recommend comparing the time length of the vows because when you’re looking into your fiancé’s eyes, knowing it’s your wedding day, you will never read it at the same speed as when you practiced before. Instead, we suggest considering the number of sentences. Once again, this does not have to be exact. But if you say you want your vows to be between 10-14 sentences, regardless of the content, that will probably feel like a similar length.
There are many ways you can read your vows. We recommend using the same option for both partners so it’s cohesive. If one individual does not want to physically read anything and wing it, then the other individual can pick how they wish to read (options are below). Although we all know how hard it can be to recite vows without any props!
If anyone has any questions or additional tips about writing your vows, feel free to reach out! We would love to hear from you.